You can’t always get what you want: dealing with rejection

a door with a graffetti heart on it and then the word 'nope!' written next to it.I’ve been applying for lots of opportunities recently – part of my strategy of trying new things, partly because the pattern of my work seems to have shifted from a few large contracts to many small pieces of delivery.

With a great number of applications, comes a mixed bag of responses – some yes, some no, and some are in between (do more and resubmit).

It’s in the midst of this that I’ve been reading Resilience: facing down rejection and criticism on the road to success, Continue reading

A is for activism: activism with a variety of typefonts

an abstract image in different 50's style - circles and colours, blue, mustard, red, yellow, pink...I was challenged this week for not being an activist. The idea of ‘difference being different’ was ridiculed:

“Jo Verrent said different is delicious. Excuse me? Vodka and tonic is delicious. Chocolate; oral sex; toothpaste. Different is sheer shit if you’re the one who’s not the same and is constantly reminded of the fact in no uncertain terms.”

They’re not wrong. I don’t disagree with them. But when I say ‘difference is delicious’ it’s part of the struggle to make things better; it’s not a way of accepting the status quo. Continue reading

Getting it from the horses mouth, and using it: six tips for dealing with feedback

green cells seen under the microscopeEver felt under the microscope? In the last month I’ve had a critique from my Open University tutor, comments on an academic paper submission, feedback on presentation style and media skills, my 360 degree feedback from Ashridge (comments from 18 people I have worked for or worked with) and I’m working with two new sets of people, all of whom tell me straight. Its been feedback month for sure, and plenty more to come.

 

Such input is a popular subject – two of my Clore fellows were mulling on it for the Guardian blog site last week – so here are my six top tips.

1. Welcome it

Knowing what people think is always good – it gives you a wider view of the world and how people see you in it. It doesn’t mean you’ll always like what you hear, but you can choose to be grateful for hearing it. Say thanks. Continue reading